Updated: Mar 19
I'm just going to start this post off with some realness from my pregnancy: I really disliked being pregnant. I wouldn't necessarily go as far as to say I hated it...but really disliked it.
I know I am not alone in this feeling either!
Cue the throwing up, swelling feet, carpal tunnel hands, aching back, sweaty hot mess, insomnia.....you get the point.
It's kinda a drag...but apparently it's necessary in order to have babies so us mamas deal with it.
BUT, that doesn't mean we can't be somewhat prepared for the 9 month roller coaster.
Each trimester poses its own problems (yeah!!! Lucky us!) so I've broken down my pregnancy must haves based on the trimester.
Trimester 1: Suffer In Silence
Why is the first trimester called Suffer In Silence?
Admittedly, I made that name up...but hear me out: most women opt to wait until they are at least 13 or more weeks into their pregnancy before announcing it.
Why? Statistically speaking, the chances of miscarriage after 13 weeks is around 5%. This means it's a relatively safe time to start telling friends and family about the pregnancy.
This also means that there are roughly 12 precious weeks where we suffer in silence.
12 weeks of nausea and vomiting. 12 weeks of utter exhaustion. All in silence.
So, how the heck are we going to arm ourselves during this time?
1. Crackers on the bedside table & ginger candies in our pocket
Munching on crackers first thing in the morning can help keep the nausea and vomiting at bay.
Unfortunately, despite being called "morning sickness", this tends to happen at all hours of the day. Having ginger candies in your pocket can help when you suddenly get hit with nausea.
2. Rest, rest, rest
The first trimester is very taxing on the body as this is when the most things are happening - your body is working overtime to turn that little speckle into an actual baby. And that is hard work.
You will be exhausted like never before.
This is a great time to load off some household tasks to your partner or call in a close loved one to help so you can nap, rest and go to bed early.
Trimester 2: Feelin' Good
A lot of times the second trimester is the sweet spot - the nausea and vomiting has passed (hopefully) and you haven't hit the "I'm so big I'm waddling" stage so you can float on by for the most part.
1. Oil or lotion for belly
Your belly is stretching and will continue to stretch right up until the end. This means itchiness! Our skin tends to get really itchy when it's stretching so a good oil or lotion will help keep the skin hydrated lessening the itch.
My favourite oil to use is Bio-Oil.
2. Maternity Clothes
Your yoga pants will only last so long before they are too tight around the belly. As you grow more and more, having comfy maternity clothes will ensure you aren't squeezing into your old stuff.
Bonus...maternity clothes nowadays is way more stylish than in our parents generation. Gone are the baggy dresses that would attempt to hide the belly and hello to the wonderful styles that show off your cute bump.
Trimester 3: The Waddle
We all do it at some point. Whether it's from a massive belly, baby pushing weird on our organs, swollen feet or just overall aches and pains, the waddle happens at some point.
The good news is...you're close to the end.
The bad news is...things just hurt at this point.
Yup...there's really no way to sugar coat it.
1. Comfy shoes
Whether you stand all day at work, sit most of the day or are in-between, you will want comfy shoes. There's also a chance your feet may swell or even get bigger during pregnancy so your old shoes might not fit for the time-being anyways.
I bought 3 pairs of shoes during my pregnancy because I was desperate! My feet ached so badly it hurt to stand but my new shoes helped. I went the total mom route and bought all my shoes from Skechers.
2. Pregnancy Pillow
There's no denying that getting comfy while sleeping is a challenge. Body aches paired with insomnia can make it very hard to get decent zzz's but a pregnancy pillow can help.
Pregnancy pillows are awesome because they mold to your body when you're laying on your side (which is the most optimal position for pregnancy). The length of the pillow allows you to put the pillow between your knees to help alleviate hip pain. It also supports your belly.
I originally bought my pregnancy pillow at the Baby Show but there are tons on Amazon.
Pregnancy may suck a little (or a lot sometimes...) BUT there is a silver lining...
Elephants are pregnant for 22 months.
Aside from that little fun fact, there really is a silver lining.
Ultrasounds, hearing your baby's heartbeat, feeling the kicks, hiccups and movements, and just knowing your body is creating a human being.
At the end of the day, those things make it worth it. Hands down.
So buckle up mama, you're in for a wild ride but you got this! There's nothing stronger and more resilient than a woman.
Have you been pregnant before and have your own tips? Please leave them below so we can help as many women as possible!
Much love mamas!